Not getting much help

After 30 years of trying to manage things on my own I decided to try and start some meds. Now I can’t get my insurance company to cover anything that will actually help and I’m pretty much stuck going to a family doctor who treats ADHD patients like heroin junkies. Sadly I’m probably going to lose my job which provides the ins before I can get the help I need to try and save it.

That’s a tough one, Adam, and we’re sorry that you’re stuck in this position. It’s good that you’re coming here to vent, but is there anything you’d like to ask (advice? similar experiences with anticipated job loss? how to approach this with a family doc?) that other members might be able to help you with?

If you do, please post again, with a subject line that is clear about what you need from the other members.

What’s happening with your job? Can you tell us more?

Seenie from Moderator Support

Wish I knew where to even start asking. At this point it takes all my energy just to get through the work day without losing my cool over things that are out of my control.

I run a crew of maintenance workers and deal with very irate and entitled customers daily, when people don’t listen to what I’m telling them or start treating me badly I get very worked up, and try as I might I can’t hide it.

It also takes a ton of focus and organization along with the ability to adapt by the minute. I don’t have those attributes

@trust_level_0 Does anyone have advice for Adam?

It’s ok, I always seem to have questions no one can answer.
I’ve got an apt with a new doctor next week. Ubfortunatly it’s just another family doctor, as my insurance will not pay for the one specialist in my area, and no psychiatrists in this part of Michigan are taking new patients with anxiety and depression or add, etc as they feel those are mainstream enough to be treated by your family doctors. So while I’m hopeful for some relief, I’m worried they will simply try different meds to find out all what’s going on, ADHD, anxiety etc, instead of finding out first and treating the real causes.
On top of it, I really don’t like doctors, therapists etc or trust them very much. My treatment as a child was a nightmare, and it’s taken me 25+ years to even talk about it, let alone actually do it. And I’m afraid I’ll sabotage myself as usual instead of giving it a chance

I’m glad you have an appointment, I think family doctors can be quite competent in this area so I really hope they can help you. I know it will be hard to give it a chance but we’re here to support you through it. Please let us know how it goes? What day is your appointment?

Monday. As long as nothing happens until then to change it.

That’s a really perceptive statement, and says a lot about your ability to analyze and organize. Why not take control of the appointment with that as a starting point.

Tell the doctor that your job is in jeopardy, that it requires focus and organization and adaptability, and that you don’t have those attributes. Then ask what resources or help is available to you. Write it down if you have to. Make two copies so that you can give one to the doctor if words fail you.

Adam, I think you are smarter and more capable than you give yourself credit for. Do not all anything to happen to change the Monday appointment. Please come back and tell us how it went, OK?

Seenie from Moderator Support

Well almost two years now. Meds help, but im still not able to control my focus, stop having to make several trips to get stuff i forgot just to get im the car to go work. I guess ive gotten the best i can. I just hoped for more. Still feel like a weakminded loser

Hey, Adam, we’re still thinking of you. Have you seen Quinn’s introductory post? Made me think of you.


Hey Adam, it’s Quinn here just checking in to see how you are doing.